Negative comments and trolls can be a real pain for bloggers. They can come out of nowhere, leaving you feeling frustrated and angry with their rudeness and lack of constructive criticism. The fact that they don’t even know you and you didn’t ask for their input can be even more infuriating. But, yeah, it is part of the job. Dealing with trolls and negative comments is something every blogger needs to learn how to do to be successful.
When I received my first comment on one of my blogs, it was positive. Lucky me! Unfortunately, not every comment comes out to be positive. Some people don’t get you and want to leave a negative comment for the sake of it.
So, let’s face it, babe! You need to learn how to deal with these kinds of people. Don’t let them let you down and remove your focus from what you do best—creating amazing content!
Here are some tips on how to deal with negative comments and trolls as a blogger without losing your cool:
Take a Deep Breath Every Time You Receive a Negative Comment
Then, ignore it if possible. Most of the time, trolls are looking for attention, and they will go away if you don’t give it to them. Take a step back, take a deep breath and focus on your work instead of their words. When they don’t get a reaction, they will usually go away.
Another thing you should do is refer to the blog’s comment policy. You can either delete their comments or reply with a polite message that also reminds them of your comment policy. This way, you’re not engaging in an argument with them, and you remain professional.
But of course, there will be times when you need to fight back; for example, if they wrote something totally wrong about you that can mislead other readers, you might want to correct them and show them the truth.
In those situations, it is important that you stay professional and polite while responding, even when they don’t seem to get it. Responding in a respectful manner can help you remain calm and demonstrate to other readers that you are not the one being unreasonable.
All in all, take a deep breath and be the better person!
Delete the Comments
You know the best part of blogging and owning your blog? You are the boss! That means you can delete any comment you don’t like without having to explain yourself. If they wrote something inappropriate, rude, or offensive, feel free to delete it and move on with your life.
Honey, life is too short to waste your time on trolls. Don’t let them ruin your day and distract you from what is truly important in your real life. If there’s anything you don’t like, just don’t give it your attention and delete it.
I remember that the first time I received a negative comment, it felt like a punch in the stomach. I could even feel my face turn red, and smoke was out of my ears. But, as I mentioned before, don’t let them get to you!
It’s important that you learn to take negative comments with a grain of salt and not let them define your work. Remember: You can always delete the comment if it is too much for you! Just a click away, and you can be free again.
Don’t Let Them Get to You
The last thing I want you to remember is that trolls don’t define your work or your worth. They can be annoying, but they will never stop you from achieving what you want if you don’t let them. So keep creating great content and attracting the right kind of people—the ones who are there for a good reason.
Just because THEY think differently from you doesn’t mean that YOUR opinion or work is wrong. Focus on the people who appreciate and love what you do instead. Those people are the ones you should be building relationships with, and those are the people who will make a difference in your blogging success, not the jealous trolls.
Years ago, I got to know a fellow blogger who was a newbie then, and she blogged about traveling. That niche is quite a competitive one, and in fact, you need to travel to be able to write about it. She had a lot of haters trying to bring her down, but she always stayed strong and kept creating amazing content.
Until one day, she couldn’t.
She came to me and burst into tears. All the negativity she received made her lose all her motivation and confidence. She felt like a failure, thinking that maybe the haters were right about her. I hugged her tight, telling her it would be okay no matter what happened and reminding her of her potential as a blogger.
That day I realized one thing: you can only stay strong and keep creating great content if you don’t let the haters win. You need to learn how to deal with negative comments and trolls properly; otherwise, they will eventually break your spirit.
Be the Better Person
As I’ve mentioned above, you don’t always have to fight back. You can choose to ignore the trolls and stay away from them, especially if they are not adding any value to your blog or discussion. But, in rare cases where you really have to respond to them, always stay professional and polite.
Remember: You are the better person here! Why pull yourself down to their level? Don’t give them the satisfaction of seeing you go crazy. It’s always wise to take a step back, think clearly, and be the bigger person.
Resorting to name-calling and insults will only demean you in the eyes of other readers, so stick with a calm and polite response. That way, you can set an example for other readers and keep the conversation going on a friendly note.
As for the trolls, they really want to see you go bananas—so don’t give them what they want! Be cool like a cucumber instead, and they will eventually disappear!
And the Last Words
We only have 24 hours per day, 7 days per week, and an undefined X amount of years to live. Don’t waste your time on trolls and haters. They will never be satisfied no matter what you do, so don’t try to make them happy. Haters gonna hate, but you have to be the bigger person and learn how to deal with them properly.
You have better things to do with your life! Invest your time in creating content that matters and attracts the right kind of people—the ones who appreciate and add value to the conversation.
At the end of the day, your opinion matters most—not theirs!